The Surprising Benefits Of Being Vulnerable In Today's World
Unveiling the power of vulnerability in today's world: Discover surprising benefits that foster deeper connections, personal growth, and overall well-being. Embrace vulnerability and thrive in an increasingly competitive society.
Have you ever stumbled upon something that made you question your entire life?
Well that's what happened to me when I came across the infamous "Red Pill" movement and it certainly made me feel a type of way.
I was intrigued by their philosophy....... the idea that men have been systematically oppressed by society and must therefore "wake up" and reclaim their power.
At the forefront of this movement is Andrew Tate, a former kickboxing champion and entrepreneur who has managed to gain a huge following online preaching the virtues of masculinity and the old school traditional gender roles. He advocates for men to embrace their natural dominance and aggression, believing that these qualities are essential to achieving success in all areas of life. He denounces any view of masculinity that might be considered "soft" or "feminine," arguing that it is a man's duty to be strong, assertive, and unyielding in his pursuits.
While I found some of their arguments compelling, especially their views on taking ownership of our lives and the benefits of exercise I was also unsettled by the way they seemed to dehumanize women and reject the idea of equality.
At its core, the Red Pill movement see's dating as a transactional affair governed by a 'sexual marketplace', where men must assert their dominance and value in order to attract women.
They believe that it is their role to be the providers and protectors in the relationship and in return the women should adhere to their traditional roles as nurturers and house wife's.
I don't know about you but that way of looking at dating and love is very different from my experience...... especially as a gay man.
We, gays, don't face the same pressures and expectations of masculinity that straight men do and we are allowed a freedom of expression to explore who we are, how we think and how we feel..... and I don't think straight men are allowed to do the same and in my opinion anybody who isn't allowed to acknowledge what they are feeling, experiencing and being ok with that vunerabilty does far more damage to their mental health than they would bottling it up...... the exact opposite to what Andrew Tate and the red pill movement claim that it does.
So in this blog, I'd like to talk about that. I'd like to share with you my own thoughts and feelings on why not only is vulnerability OK but also explain what exactly are the surprising benefits of being vulnerable in today's world.
I hope you enjoy 😊
The Ultimate Guide To What Being Vulnerable Is
Vulnerability means allowing yourself to be exposed and honest about your emotions, thoughts, and experiences. It's about being true to who you are, even in the face of judgement and rejection. (Brown, 2010)
I see it in my clients every day..... The difficulty they have in sharing and showing who they really are BUT the truth is It is essential to embrace vulnerability to promote healing, learning, and personal growth..... To progress, we must first accept where we currently stand, which may involve admitting we need help or we are not okay so contrary to what Andrew Tate believes, taking accountability and ownership of our lives is the very definition of courageous.
The Benefits Of Vulnerability: Personal Growth Through Vulnerability
Though it may feel uneasy, vulnerability is crucial for personal development. By embracing openness and honesty with ourselves and those around us we can start to receive the gifts that vulnerability can bring. Below we will explore the benefits of being vulnerable (Morry, Kito & Przelomski, 2018) and how it can aid us in reaching the very best of our true selves.
Helps Build Stronger Relationships
By sharing your emotions and thoughts with others, you create deeper connections with them. When we show our vulnerable side, it can make others feel comfortable sharing their own vulnerabilities. This helps to build trust and promote intimacy in relationships.
Encourages Personal Growth
Being vulnerable allows us to confront our fears, insecurities, and weaknesses – often things that hold us back in life. By facing them, we can learn from our experiences and push ourselves to achieve personal growth.
When we’re vulnerable, we’re taking a risk and even if things don’t go as we hoped there's always a lesson to learn from the experience where we can come back even stronger than before.
Supports Emotional Intelligence
Vulnerability allows us to develop a better understanding of our emotions, and those of others. It can help us see the truth in ourselves and others and that awareness allows us to better respond effectively to our own and other people's needs and feelings.
Helps Us To Stay True To Ourselves
The truth is In a world where opinions and beliefs are often not based in reality, vulnerability presents us with the opportunity to remain authentic to our values, passions, and goals. Through this authenticity, we open ourselves up to a stronger sense of self-worth, resilience, and contentment.
Vulnerability encourages us to deal with our problems head-on and in doing so we develop a stronger sense of self. This can help us build healthier relationships both with ourselves and others resulting in improved mental health, wellbeing and life satisfaction.
What Holds Us Back: Addressing The Stigma Around Vulnerability
In our journey towards personal growth and meaningful connections, there's one thing that often holds us back: the stigma surrounding vulnerability (Hess & Fischer, 2014). Society has ingrained in us the idea that being vulnerable is a weakness, something to be avoided or hidden. This fear of judgement and rejection can stop us from being honest and opening up about our emotions.
Whilst this may seem like an easy and safe option for some, unfortunately, that choice comes at a cost. By silencing our true selves, we build barriers that hinder our ability to connect with others, leading to difficulty in forming deep, meaningful relationships, and feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Moreover, we also miss out on the chances for personal growth and to develop the skills needed to cope with life's challenges as well as to live a happier and more fulfilling life.
So It's essential to acknowledge and understand the stigma around vulnerability. By doing so, we can work towards reducing it and creating a more tolerant and accepting society.
Embracing Vulnerability For Better Mental Health
I get it..... I know it's not easy to put yourself out there but it's an important step on the road to peace and happiness. If you would like some help in navigating that journey, here are some easy steps that you can incorporate into your daily life to help you feel more comfortable with vulnerability (Kashdan, 2010)
Identify Your Emotions
Carve out some time to reflect on the situations that cause discomfort when feeling vulnerable. When we're aware of our triggers, we can prepare and learn coping strategies better.
Recognize that vulnerability is a part of being human, and there's nothing wrong with feeling and expressing your emotions. Be kind and compassionate towards yourself, and if needed, seek the help of a mental health professional when you feel you need support
Self-reflection is a powerful tool for understanding why you feel a certain way and what might trigger certain emotions. Engage in activities that allow for self-reflection, such as journaling, meditating, or talking with a supportive therapist.
Begin with small acts of vulnerability, such as sharing a personal story with someone you trust. It is essential to keep in mind that being vulnerable doesn't require you to share everything, especially with those you don't fully trust
Embracing vulnerability starts with being kind to yourself. It takes courage to confront difficult emotions and experiences, and you should give yourself credit for doing so. Cultivate self-compassion by treating yourself with empathy, kindness, and understanding.
Share With A Trusted Person
Sharing your emotions with a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional can help you feel more connected and supported. Start small by sharing your thoughts and feelings about everyday experiences, and then gradually move towards sharing more vulnerable emotions.
Surround Yourself With Support
Seek out and lean into relationships in which you can be vulnerable. Having people around you who validate your feelings while providing a safe space to share your experiences is so critical.
Remember that change takes time, and setbacks will happen. Trust that you're on the right path and have faith in yourself. Stay focused, persistent, and dedicated and I promise you'll see the results that you're aiming for!
I get that it can be challenging to face our reflections in the mirror, especially when we're struggling. It can feel impossible and overwhelming to accept how far we've fallen and how much further we need to go BUT why not take that leap of faith... The results might just surprise you.
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Morry, M. M., Kito, M., & Przelomski, A. (2018). The benefits of being vulnerable: Disclosure and implicit liking in initial interactions. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 35(10), 1337-1356
Hess, U., & Fischer, A. (2014). Emotional and Social Consequences of Venting and Not Venting Emotions: Should We Always Vent? In Oxford Handbook of Emotion, Social Cognition, and Problem Solving in Adulthood, Jennifer S. Beer, ed. (Oxford University Press, NY, USA), pp. 181–199