We're living in very very weird times at the minute aren't we and if you're anything like me you'll be feeling a little frazzled both inside and out.
Sometimes I'll look at others and think
"God you really have it all figured out don't you?"
But however much this idea jumps into my head I know it not to be true. I know that we're all in this together and even the best of us have our bad days.
It's such a shame that we live in a time where there is such a focus on beauty and how we look.
Woman have always been told that they need to be glam 24/7 but now the men are getting that message as well..... if you don't have a body like a Greek god then it's a no.
Don't get me wrong I'm all for self empowerment and striving to be better but who of us, no matter how many diets we try or trips to the gym each week looks like the models we see slapped all over social media..... not fucking many of us
.....And the truth is it's doing nothing for our confidence and self-esteem.
So..... this blog is a message to all of us. A message of how we can feel better about ourselves and the way we look. Let's talk about it
Firstly.....
Throw Away What You See In The Media
What we are told by the media about the way we should all look is utter rubbish and unachievable. It used to be just aimed at woman demanding that they look perfect from morning to night but now they've also come for the boys and if your not 6ft and built to the gods wearing the latest designer gear there's no place for you at the table.
Let's brake it down though,
What is the reality of most people that are in the public eye? What do they have that we don't? Well..... for starters they have -
Money
Access to the best of the best
Personal trainers that will come to your home, brake the door down if necessary and make you do them squats
A GREAT PR team that will shadow you from all negative press and unflattering images
Photo editing services
Do you see?
I tell you if I had the money, privilege, access and connections to the best of the best I might look a little different.
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
Comparing yourself with other people might seem harmless but in fact, it can be quite destructive to your sense of self-worth and mental health. Comparisons makes you feel inferior to other people and the reality is regardless of how stunning you are there will always be someone bigger and better around the corner so you will live your life in the negative and thinking you're not good enough.
Why not focus on compassion, curiosity and inspiration from others instead of competition and comparison.
Smile At Yourself In The Mirror
Give yourself a quick smile and think a positive thought, each time you pass by a mirror. View yourself in the mirror as your dear friend who needs self-confidence, and give compliments to pump you up.... Give yourself a day off from the negative voices. Over time it will work wonders.
Psychologists found that we are likely to end up in a bad mood if our self-talk is mostly negative thoughts. View yourself more positively and perk. In other words fake it until you make it (Trust me, it works)
Only Buy It If You Can Say “I Love It”
Avoid making impulse buys simply because something is on trend and you are enjoying a day of shopping. Instead, focus on purchasing clothes or other items in which you feel comfortable and that you truly love.
Develop your own sense of style that is unique, personal and based on your type of energy. Evaluate each clothing purchase by what you feel deep inside about it and stay true to yourself.
Trust Yourself
The habit of finding outside validation usually damages our self-esteem. It gives someone else the authority and power over your own life.
Start to pay attention to your own gut instincts and a new life habit of trusting yourself Instead of looking for someone's agreement or approval.
Become Your Own Beauty Expert
It feels so much easier to move through the world with self-assurance and boldness when your accessories and clothing match your energy from head to toe. Beauty is a form of empowerment and personal self-love.
Become your own beauty expert and discover how it feels to finally discover your own type of beauty. It feels so wonderful to stop compromising your own natural standard of beauty.
Do looks matter?..... Whether you play the game or not we live in a time where unfortunately looks do matter yeah
Should they matter?..... Absolutely fucking not. We're all here and we all count and we all deserve to been accepted.
Sooooooo the biggest tip I can give you is????
Learnt to accept yourself and express yourself in whatever way you want..... If you wanna change something about yourself, do it but if you're happy the way you are then you do you (bo0)
Don't let anyone say your not enough