What I've Learnt As A Counsellor

Being A Counsellor is without a doubt my biggest achievement in life..... It brings me endless amounts of joy, and being part of someone's journey of self-discovery and healing is a gift.

The biggest thing I've realized working with people is that at the heart of it we are all the same and we are all searching for the same things.

We're all searching for that connection, understanding and meaning in life and in opening up and sharing our journey we can more often than not find that golden nugget of information that changes things.... That little lesson that makes the picture a little clearer.

And some of those things are universal.... They are the truths that run through us all and If you'd let me I'd love to share with you the things I see that we all possess regardless of who we are and where we've come from.

• We all long for acceptance and validation....... Do you see me? Do you hear me? Does what I think and feel matter something to you?

• We have endless amounts of courage, love and forgiveness for the ones we love..

• We place sky-high expectations on ourselves and although we wouldn't dream of asking this much of others when it comes to us nothing but reaching for the heavens will do....The problem with this, however, is that these goals are so high that they're impossible to reach leading us to think we can never achieve anything.

• It doesn't matter what backgrounds we come from or what we have been through with the right support and commitment change is always possible... Existing is not enough. We must learn how to thrive

• Mental health is hard..... It's not logical, it's not rational and it very rarely makes sense and every single one of us will suffer from it at some point.... Life is tough sometimes.

• We all have this idea that everyone else has their stuff together and it's just us... The truth is they don't and we are all just as fucked up as each other...... and that's ok. We all seem to be searching for purpose and understanding of where we fit in this world and that's a life long journey..... Give yourself a break. You're doing better than you think.

• Learning to say NO is a game-changer

• We don’t like to talk about our mental health - especially with our loved ones... We don't want to be a burden to them... The truth is, though, sharing our story is the main part of the healing process.

• Happiness is a choice and it might seem impossible to get to sometimes but it is a choice..... It's all about taking control of our lives.

• We sometimes miss what's right in front of our faces and will often choose to ignore facts if they don't fit with our ideas..... And what we don't like in others is often a reflection of our own issues.

• It's often our loved ones that can cause us the most pain

Change is never easy and Counselling is a journey but seeing those lightbulb moments when something clicks together reminds me of why I do my job... It really is a privilege to be part of someone's healing.

If you would sprinkle this around on your socials that would be great.... It really helps

Until next time x